Monica Mansfield's friend was 40 years old before she found out the truth about her dog.
"Her pet that had supposedly 'gone off to the farm' when she was young was actually put to sleep when she wasn't home," says Mansfield, DVM, an associate at Medway Animal Hospital in Medway, Mass. "She was even an adult when she found out and she was still extremely wounded and angry."
"We try not to be too technical but we use the correct terminology so there isn't confusion," Mansfield says. "We tell them what's happening in their language."
The book starts off by talking about the human-animal bond and fun times with a pet. (Your pet is always happy to see you. She never uses angry words. She listens to all of your secrets.) Then it eases into pet ailments. (If your pet becomes sick or hurt, you might feel sad or scared. Your family may need to bring your pet to the veterinarian, who is a special doctor just for animals.) And soon it gets into the much tougher stuff. (Sometimes when an animal is very sick, very old, or badly hurt, it might be time for her life to end. Your family might need to make a very difficult decision with the veterinarian's help.) Then the pages explain euthanasia—and Mansfield actually uses the "E" word.
In the book she writes, "The veterinarian will give your pet a special medicine that will help her die peacefully and quickly so she will no longer feel bad or feel pain. It will be the kindest and most loving thing to do. This is called euthanasia. It doesn't hurt the animal and will help her die gently." The story wraps up with ways for children to cope (e.g., plant a flower in your pet's memory, draw a picture of your pet and frame it) and has a spot reserved on the last page for a photo of the beloved pet.
"If we know that clients are in the moment—they're either considering euthanasia or just made the decision—we ask, 'Are there young children at home?'" Mansfield says. "If they say yes, then we hand them a book."
Medway Animal Hospital increased the total price of euthanasia by $5, which more than covers the cost of one book (which retails for $8.95). That way every euthanasia client can take home a copy and help the whole family deal with pet loss.
"All of us deal with grief in our lives," Mansfield says. "If parents teach their children through their pet loss, which is often their first loss, then grief can be part of life. We can teach them how to get it through it."
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About the author
"Just that week a family had asked me to explain the loss of their golden retriever to their 8-year-old child," Mansfield says. "I thought, 'Boy, if we had this written down somewhere it would be really helpful.'"
Lt. McVey died in military service just months after suggesting the idea and is honored in the book's foreword.